“Whining Is Not An Exit Strategy”
I’m very good at whining. I can easily spend an hour complaining about all the things that aren’t going my way. In fact, I’m so good at it I can often find fault in things that are going well.
Unfortunately, whining is not a very useful talent. While it might make me feel better for a short time, it usually doesn’t fix anything. In fact, more often than not whining makes things worse. I can think of several instances when I have taken the figurative mole hill and whined it into a mountain.
Blaming others is the same. It can be soothing to tell ourselves we had no control over a situation; that we were innocent bystanders. However, by playing the victim we give away any power we might have to change the situation. We allow ourselves to be helpless.
In both cases, whining and blaming, the energy can usually be put toward much more effective action.
How often do you whine about things or blame others rather than looking for constructive actions to improve the situation? It might be more than you think. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to pay attention to how many times you resort to whining or blaming this week. Note them in your calendar or a journal. Look to see if there is a trend. Most importantly, vow to take action in the future rather than giving-in to the temptation to whine or blame.
If your experience is like mine, you’ll be surprised by what you learn. As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts!